If you ask my husband my best trait, he’ll smile and say, “She never gives up.” But if you ask him my worst trait, he’ll get a funny tic in his cheek, narrow his eyes and hiss, “She. Never. Gives. Up.”
It took me a year and a half to write my earliest version of The Help. I’d told most of my friends and family what I was working on. Why not? We are compelled to talk about our passions. When I’d polished my story, I announced it was done and mailed it to a literary agent.
Six weeks later, I received a rejection letter from the agent, stating, “Story did not sustain my interest.” I was thrilled! I called my friends and told them I’d gotten my first rejection! Right away, I went back to editing. I was sure I could make the story tenser, more riveting, better. A few months later, I sent it to a few more agents. And received a few more rejections. Well, more like 15. I was a little less giddy this time, but I kept my chin up. “Maybe the next book will be the one,” a friend said. Next book? I wasn’t about to move on to the next one just because of a few stupid l-etters. I wanted to write this book.
A year and a half later, I opened my 40th rejection: “There is no market for this kind of tiring writing.” That one finally made me cry. “You have so much resolve, Kathryn,” a friend said to me. “How do you keep yourself from feeling like this has been just a huge waste of your time?”
That was a hard weekend. I spent it in pajamas, slothing around that racetrack of self-pity—you know the one, from sofa to chair to bed to refrigerator, starting over again on the sofa. But I couldn’t let go of The Help. Call it tenacity, call it resolve or call it what my husband calls it: stubbornness.
In the end, I received 60 rejections for The Help. But letter number 61 was the one that accepted me. After my five years of writing and three and a half years of rejection, an agent named Susan Ramer took pity on me. What if I had given up at 15? Or 40? Or even 60? Three weeks later, Susan sold The Help to Amy Einhorn Books. Read the rest of this story at More Magazine.
The Help has just come out in paperback, and a movie adaptation is scheduled for release in August.
Veronica
Great article! I loved the book and the fact that her real life and Skeeters character have somewhat parallel lives. Really inspiring. Thanks for posting.
The enchanted home
AMAZING!!!! This is so great, so inspiring. The Help is one of my all time favorite books and I so cannot wait to see the movie..the storyline sucked me in so much that I read it twice! She is a true inspiration.
pimp my bricks
I've read that one characteristic common to all 'successful' people is that they don't take failure personally. Personally, I think that's a rare and covetable quality, and not one I possess. However, we ALL need stories like this one – thanks so very much for posting it.
PP
julieatbellevivir
Veronica,
Thanks for coming and commenting. I haven't red the book yet but now more than ever I'm more interesting in reading it. 🙂
julieatbellevivir
Tina,
Isn't she amazing? Incredible story indeed.
julieatbellevivir
PMV,
What an interesting approach and point. It makes totally sense.
thank you for the comment!